Rough notes on what we're sharing with our summer interns and staff tonight.
Summer Intern Orientation…
1. It’s about the Heart (C.H. Spurgeon quote)
“How diligently the calvary officer keeps his sabre clean and sharp; every stain he rubs off with the greatest care. Remember you are God's sword, His instrument – I trust, a chosen vessel unto Him to bear His name. In great measure, according to the purity and perfection of the instrument will be the success. It is not great talents God blesses as much as likeness to Jesus. A holy minister is an awful weapon in the hand of God”.
The most important thing you can do this summer is care for your own heart.
• What are some ways you grow personally? You need both the table and the chair.
• Are you a writer? Take time to write what God is doing in your life and how he is using you.
• Attend “big church”
• God answers prayer
• Seek to experience God in the small things
2. It’s about the relationships
a. Build deep relationships with students you are naturally drawn towards
b. Use your “left hand” to build relationships with students who are a little more difficult to connect with. Actively pursue those who are on the peripheral.
c. Be creative and cheap with your activities.
d. Kidding around can get out of hand real fast and damage potential influence
e. Us your words to build up. Students rarely hear positive affirmation consistently.
3. It’s about wisdom
a. When in doubt be conservative
i. If there’s a question about what you’re doing the answer should typically be “don’t do it”. If you need to ask someone’s advice do it.
ii. Have deep relationships, but keep wise boundaries in those relationships.
1. Careful about driving someone of the opposite sex.
2. Careful about one on one time with opposite sex.
iii. Think about what you put on facebook
iv. Think about how you drive.
b. If you get into a conversation that seems to be over your pay scale, get help. (anything illegal, abuse, theological, intense battle with parents…)
c. Remember that you’re there generally as a partner with parents
d. Be very conscious about bringing parents in the loop. “Can I get a tattoo? Can I get this piercing? Can I go to this rated R movie? Those are questions only parents should answer.
Weekly Schedule
• Jump in and help
• Don’t be on the peripheral during activities. Model service and worship for the students. They learn more from what they see you do than what they hear you say.
• Find time to go to “big church”
Tuesday, May 24, 2011
Monday, May 23, 2011
End of school year email to adult leaders...
Lifegroup and 10:24 is over for the school year. What to do?
It’s a very common question. The most important point to remember is that relationship is not a program. Sure, we provide space for you to build relationships with students but just because the scheduled gathering has ended doesn’t mean your relationships end.
Some thoughts...
If you didn’t have a celebration last night you might want to go out for ice cream or something after this Sunday’s student led event. Talk about what God has done over the year.
Go to camp.
Show up on a Sunday night at least once a month over the summer. We don’t have life groups but your students are still around and would love to connect with you. (you’re welcome any time btw)
Go to camp.
Attend one of the special Wednesday night events.
Live on facebook. Yes it’s one of the easiest way to connect.
Go to camp.
Plan a summer outing with your group.
It’s been a phenomenal year of relational ministry. You have prayed, connected and invested in students this school year. It’s evident that God is continuing to do a unique work through our student ministry here at IBC. Thank you so much for your investment.
Did you ever know that you’re my hero?
David
It’s a very common question. The most important point to remember is that relationship is not a program. Sure, we provide space for you to build relationships with students but just because the scheduled gathering has ended doesn’t mean your relationships end.
Some thoughts...
If you didn’t have a celebration last night you might want to go out for ice cream or something after this Sunday’s student led event. Talk about what God has done over the year.
Go to camp.
Show up on a Sunday night at least once a month over the summer. We don’t have life groups but your students are still around and would love to connect with you. (you’re welcome any time btw)
Go to camp.
Attend one of the special Wednesday night events.
Live on facebook. Yes it’s one of the easiest way to connect.
Go to camp.
Plan a summer outing with your group.
It’s been a phenomenal year of relational ministry. You have prayed, connected and invested in students this school year. It’s evident that God is continuing to do a unique work through our student ministry here at IBC. Thank you so much for your investment.
Did you ever know that you’re my hero?
David
Thursday, May 19, 2011
Youth Ministry Unconference Wisconsin
Youth Ministry Unconference is a gathering of youth workers who dream, collaborate and discuss how to more effectively reach and deepen students. There is no celebrity, special speaker or expert who dominates. Well, I take that back, everyone who attends the event is an expert in their own way.
Each person who attended last week's Wisconsin unconference brought unique perspective and genius to the table. God has gifted Wisconsin with sharp and passionate youth workers. This conference format allows for each person's giftedness and experience to encourage and challenge others.
Some brief thoughts...
Many youth workers are burned out and need time away to reflect and decompress.
Youth workers seem to be beyond the glitz of events and long for the supernatural movement of God in their ministries.
There seems to be a powerful and beautiful "handoff" of youth ministry from the older generation to the next.
Youth workers love to be together and are incredibly fun.
We're still trying to figure out the best way to get students connected to Godly adult leaders.
Youth workers need each other.
Fried cheese curds are delicious.
Although I came back to Texas exhausted it was the good kind of exhaustion. I was encouraged, challenged and blessed to be a part of the conversation. It's also pretty cool to have some new friends in Wisconsin.
I would highly encourage you to host and or lead a youth ministry unconference in your area. It's a unique angle on equipping and encouraging youth ministry that is as effective as anything I've experienced in 20+ years of youth ministry. You and those who participate will walk away challenged, encouraged and better equipped. It's also a great way for each one who is there to humbly encourage and equip others.
To learn more check it out...
Youth Ministry Unconferences
You can also follow on twitter @ymunconference
Each person who attended last week's Wisconsin unconference brought unique perspective and genius to the table. God has gifted Wisconsin with sharp and passionate youth workers. This conference format allows for each person's giftedness and experience to encourage and challenge others.
Some brief thoughts...
Many youth workers are burned out and need time away to reflect and decompress.
Youth workers seem to be beyond the glitz of events and long for the supernatural movement of God in their ministries.
There seems to be a powerful and beautiful "handoff" of youth ministry from the older generation to the next.
Youth workers love to be together and are incredibly fun.
We're still trying to figure out the best way to get students connected to Godly adult leaders.
Youth workers need each other.
Fried cheese curds are delicious.
Although I came back to Texas exhausted it was the good kind of exhaustion. I was encouraged, challenged and blessed to be a part of the conversation. It's also pretty cool to have some new friends in Wisconsin.
I would highly encourage you to host and or lead a youth ministry unconference in your area. It's a unique angle on equipping and encouraging youth ministry that is as effective as anything I've experienced in 20+ years of youth ministry. You and those who participate will walk away challenged, encouraged and better equipped. It's also a great way for each one who is there to humbly encourage and equip others.
To learn more check it out...
Youth Ministry Unconferences
You can also follow on twitter @ymunconference
Sunday, May 15, 2011
At the Movies with Students Part 3
This is the third and final post on helping students think through movies, music and television. Messages from culture and media are more prominent today than ever before. Rarely do students unplug.
The word "amuse" is French and stems from the word "muse" which means "ponder" or "thought". The "a" negates thinking. So the word amuse basically means to be without thought or to simply put your brain in nuetral. We don't want students to simply be amused when they engage media. Our hope is they keep their thinking engaged as they interact with movies, television and music.
To help them better engage media there are seven questions we hope they will consider and utilize as they spend time watching or listening.
Here are the first 4...
1. Did I enjoy it. Why or Why not?
2. Does it teach anything about morality?
3. How does it portray authority?
4. Does it communicate anything about God?
You can check out the full posts at...
At the Movies with Students Part 1
At the Movies with Students Part 2
Now the final 3...
What is the "big point" in the movie, song or show?
Granted, not all media has a point but many times there is a theme, thought or philosophy that is highlighted. The other night I went to see "Thor". Not the greatest movie in the world, but I would say the strongest theme in the movie was that humility and teachability results in strength and wisdom. That's kind of a cool lesson to observe when perhaps going to watch what seems to be a thoughtless movie. Movies like "Crash", "No Strings Attached" and "The Kings Speech" all have strong central messages. It's fun and important to ask students, "what's that song actually about?" Same thing with movies and television. Most of the time they're not thinking about that because they've turned their brains off. We need to help them ask the right questions.
Can you find the "fingerprints of God"?
Most media is not directly about God but there are many examples that have echoes of his heart and plan. Again, "Thor". There are all kinds of references to sacrificial death and resurrection. Also, the strong theme of reconciliation with a father has God's fingerprints all over it.
The movie "127 Hours" is about a man who has an accident and has to take drastic measures to save his own life, but it's also about a person's independence and his admittance of his need for others. God made us communal and that truth comes out strong. I could go on but you get the drift. We need to help students sharpen their eyes and help them see that even people who don't now Jesus are made in the image of God and create media that reflects the deep longing of their heart which also often reflects the hand of God.
The final question,
What difference might this make in my life and the life of others?
Whether we like it or not, music, movies and television shape the lives of teens. Not every movie I've seen has impacted me, but many have. Some media opens the door for students to speak to other students about difficult issues. It's great when a show or song comes along that opens the door for conversation and reflection.
So there you have it. Some pretty simple questions to help them engage and avoid the temptation to simply be "amused". What are some questions I'm missing? If you serve students how do you help them fully engage and think through culture?
Saturday, May 14, 2011
3 Reasons I Love Rob Bell
Ok, I realize the twitter flash is over and fewer people are talking about Rob Bell. After a month to reflect and the task of discussing "Love Wins" with our young adults next Thursday I wanted to share some short thoughts on why I love Rob and why I'm struggling with "Love Wins".
Here's the first reason to love Rob...
1. He's a gifted creative genius.
God has gifted Rob in incredible ways. Back in the day we used "nooma" videos to help students understand and engage with truth. I'm so grateful for his giftedness and willingness to try something new. The first video we ever used was the one on "fire". Do you remember how powerful that was? Or what about the video when he was hiking and had his son on his back. I can still remember him saying, "it's ok buddy". Powerful stuff.
2. He's not afraid to ask tough questions.
Our churches and communities must be places where people feel the freedom to question. Let's face it, there is a lot of stuff we believe that doesn't make sense. Many of the questions that come up in "Love Wins" are important things for us to consider. People are asking questions about heaven and hell. They're asking questions about God's goodness and human suffering. They're asking questions about grace and forgiveness. I long for my church to be a place where questions come frequently without the fear of others condemning.
I don't believe Rob is afraid to ask questions, do you?
3. He's my brother in Christ.
As I wrote that I felt so "oldschool", but it's true. Rob loves Jesus and Jesus loves Rob. People should absolutely desire what is God's best for Rob and his family. This passage in 1st Peter has really grabbed my heart lately.
1 Peter 1:22-23
22 Now that you have purified yourselves by obeying the truth so that you have sincere love for your brothers, love one another deeply, from the heart. 23 For you have been born again, not of perishable seed, but of imperishable, through the living and enduring word of God.
When we obey the gospel we automatically and supernaturally have "sincere love for your brothers". Rob is one of those "brothers".
Although I love and respect Rob and his ministry I have significant struggles with "Love Wins".
Here are 3 quick thoughts.
1. He belittles his would be critics.
Many have said they love the book because it creates great discussion. Great discussion doesn't usually happen if you cut off those who disagree with you at the knees. His use of exaggeration and sarcasm may cause the reader to feel that if they question or believe something different than Rob perhaps they've "hijacked Christianity" or "don't throw very good parties". Perhaps instead of using verbiage like "if your God is loving one second and cruel the next" it might be better to seek to understand God's love as it relates also to his holiness, righteousness and justice. Is God cruel? No. Holy? Absolutely. That would be a discussion worth having.
I love what Tim Keller has said...
"The first thing that disappointed me was not the content so much as the attitude. There is an immediate ridicule of apparent “close-minded” people. A conversation about conflict cannot begin with ridicule. We should not pit the doctrines of God against one another. At the cross, the love and holiness of God both win."
Perhaps it's just me but I've always felt better conversations resulted when respecting the thoughts of critics instead of belittling them.
2. His use of scripture is at best incomplete.
I'm no Bible scholar and I don't have my doctorate in Greek but I really do have a passion to handle the scriptures well and look at the whole council of God. In my limited understanding it doesn't seem Rob does that well. Perhaps it was an oversight on my part but there seems to be important passages excluded. Of course he couldn't or wouldn't put all the Bible in his book but there are a couple that seem crucial to his discussion.
Does he anywhere mention the whole "narrow road" passage of Matthew 7? There's no doubt I could have missed it but Jesus seems to believe there will be a few saved.
The other major passage strangely missing is the "lamb's book of life" and "lake of fire" passage in Revelation 20:14, 15. That's some scary *%$^%# right there. Take a look if you have time.
Scot Mcknight has this to say about omitting Rev. 20...
"The first one is fatal for his argument because he said “And that’s it.” He does not discuss the Lake of Fire, and it appears to me that it cuts across his central arguments."
It would be interesting to see Rob's thoughts on these and other passages.
3. He is clearly unclear in his position.
Some people I've spoken with say the book is very clear on it's position. Others have said they have no idea what Rob's position is and what he's trying to say. My struggle is that he says things very strong and then throws in a "get out of jail free" card. Kind of like 'it would be dumb to believe that God judges sin for eternity" and then turning around and saying "I'm not really sure what happens". (my words not his)
He does however say this...
"Will everybody be saved, or will some perish apart from God forever because of their choices? Those are questions, or more accurately, those are tensions we are free to leave fully intact. We don’t need to resolve them or answer them because we can’t, and so we simply respect them, creating space for the freedom that love requires. (115)"
It's kind of like trying to nail jello to the wall. If he purposely is trying to be ambiguous he's done an ok job, maybe. I'm not sure. We can't know everything and there are many questions left unanswered. But when dealing with issues as important as a person's eternal destiny shouldn't we be as crystal clear as possible? Sometimes it feels he's purposely been as muddy as possible.
So, why is all this so important and why should we care? There are many answers to that question. Again, Tim Keller puts it well when asked if the discussion is important.
"Yes. It’s sort of like the bird in the ecosystem who if goes extinct throws off everything. Anything other than endless punishment lessens sin and the God who has been sinned against. If you take away the infinity of punishment, everything diminishes."
That's a strong statement and probably worth unpacking. The bottom line is this discussion on heaven and hell, God's holiness and his love is important and not going away. That's a good thing!
So, may we as people who love Jesus as the truth and learn to love and respect each other. Is it possible to love someone and also disagree with them? I sure hope so.
Here's the first reason to love Rob...
1. He's a gifted creative genius.
God has gifted Rob in incredible ways. Back in the day we used "nooma" videos to help students understand and engage with truth. I'm so grateful for his giftedness and willingness to try something new. The first video we ever used was the one on "fire". Do you remember how powerful that was? Or what about the video when he was hiking and had his son on his back. I can still remember him saying, "it's ok buddy". Powerful stuff.
2. He's not afraid to ask tough questions.
Our churches and communities must be places where people feel the freedom to question. Let's face it, there is a lot of stuff we believe that doesn't make sense. Many of the questions that come up in "Love Wins" are important things for us to consider. People are asking questions about heaven and hell. They're asking questions about God's goodness and human suffering. They're asking questions about grace and forgiveness. I long for my church to be a place where questions come frequently without the fear of others condemning.
I don't believe Rob is afraid to ask questions, do you?
3. He's my brother in Christ.
As I wrote that I felt so "oldschool", but it's true. Rob loves Jesus and Jesus loves Rob. People should absolutely desire what is God's best for Rob and his family. This passage in 1st Peter has really grabbed my heart lately.
1 Peter 1:22-23
22 Now that you have purified yourselves by obeying the truth so that you have sincere love for your brothers, love one another deeply, from the heart. 23 For you have been born again, not of perishable seed, but of imperishable, through the living and enduring word of God.
When we obey the gospel we automatically and supernaturally have "sincere love for your brothers". Rob is one of those "brothers".
Although I love and respect Rob and his ministry I have significant struggles with "Love Wins".
Here are 3 quick thoughts.
1. He belittles his would be critics.
Many have said they love the book because it creates great discussion. Great discussion doesn't usually happen if you cut off those who disagree with you at the knees. His use of exaggeration and sarcasm may cause the reader to feel that if they question or believe something different than Rob perhaps they've "hijacked Christianity" or "don't throw very good parties". Perhaps instead of using verbiage like "if your God is loving one second and cruel the next" it might be better to seek to understand God's love as it relates also to his holiness, righteousness and justice. Is God cruel? No. Holy? Absolutely. That would be a discussion worth having.
I love what Tim Keller has said...
"The first thing that disappointed me was not the content so much as the attitude. There is an immediate ridicule of apparent “close-minded” people. A conversation about conflict cannot begin with ridicule. We should not pit the doctrines of God against one another. At the cross, the love and holiness of God both win."
Perhaps it's just me but I've always felt better conversations resulted when respecting the thoughts of critics instead of belittling them.
2. His use of scripture is at best incomplete.
I'm no Bible scholar and I don't have my doctorate in Greek but I really do have a passion to handle the scriptures well and look at the whole council of God. In my limited understanding it doesn't seem Rob does that well. Perhaps it was an oversight on my part but there seems to be important passages excluded. Of course he couldn't or wouldn't put all the Bible in his book but there are a couple that seem crucial to his discussion.
Does he anywhere mention the whole "narrow road" passage of Matthew 7? There's no doubt I could have missed it but Jesus seems to believe there will be a few saved.
The other major passage strangely missing is the "lamb's book of life" and "lake of fire" passage in Revelation 20:14, 15. That's some scary *%$^%# right there. Take a look if you have time.
Scot Mcknight has this to say about omitting Rev. 20...
"The first one is fatal for his argument because he said “And that’s it.” He does not discuss the Lake of Fire, and it appears to me that it cuts across his central arguments."
It would be interesting to see Rob's thoughts on these and other passages.
3. He is clearly unclear in his position.
Some people I've spoken with say the book is very clear on it's position. Others have said they have no idea what Rob's position is and what he's trying to say. My struggle is that he says things very strong and then throws in a "get out of jail free" card. Kind of like 'it would be dumb to believe that God judges sin for eternity" and then turning around and saying "I'm not really sure what happens". (my words not his)
He does however say this...
"Will everybody be saved, or will some perish apart from God forever because of their choices? Those are questions, or more accurately, those are tensions we are free to leave fully intact. We don’t need to resolve them or answer them because we can’t, and so we simply respect them, creating space for the freedom that love requires. (115)"
It's kind of like trying to nail jello to the wall. If he purposely is trying to be ambiguous he's done an ok job, maybe. I'm not sure. We can't know everything and there are many questions left unanswered. But when dealing with issues as important as a person's eternal destiny shouldn't we be as crystal clear as possible? Sometimes it feels he's purposely been as muddy as possible.
So, why is all this so important and why should we care? There are many answers to that question. Again, Tim Keller puts it well when asked if the discussion is important.
"Yes. It’s sort of like the bird in the ecosystem who if goes extinct throws off everything. Anything other than endless punishment lessens sin and the God who has been sinned against. If you take away the infinity of punishment, everything diminishes."
That's a strong statement and probably worth unpacking. The bottom line is this discussion on heaven and hell, God's holiness and his love is important and not going away. That's a good thing!
So, may we as people who love Jesus as the truth and learn to love and respect each other. Is it possible to love someone and also disagree with them? I sure hope so.
Thursday, May 12, 2011
Feeling Stressed?
Morning - Day 6
"Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you."
It is a happy way of soothing sorrow when we can feel--"HE careth for me." Christian! do not dishonour religion by always wearing a brow of care; come, cast your burden upon your Lord. You are staggering beneath a weight which your Father would not feel. What seems to you a crushing burden, would be to him but as the small dust of the balance. Nothing is so sweet as to "Lie passive in God's hands, And know no will but his."
Spurgeon
"Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you."
It is a happy way of soothing sorrow when we can feel--"HE careth for me." Christian! do not dishonour religion by always wearing a brow of care; come, cast your burden upon your Lord. You are staggering beneath a weight which your Father would not feel. What seems to you a crushing burden, would be to him but as the small dust of the balance. Nothing is so sweet as to "Lie passive in God's hands, And know no will but his."
Spurgeon
Wednesday, May 11, 2011
At the Movies with Students Part 2
Over the next week we're continuing to think about how to encourage teens to approach media; especially television, movies and music.
As they live their lives in the middle of culture it's the parent's and pastor's responsibility to equip them to engage media through the lens of truth.
There are seven question I love teens to consider when engaging with media. For the first two questions check out
"At the movies with students part 1".
Here are questions three and four.
How does it portray authority?
Honestly, this question may stem from my growing up in the 80's, but it's still relevant for today. It seems that every movie in some way showed parents, principles, coaches and police as either stupid or evil. One of my favorite movies was "Ferris Bueller's Day Off". Remember how clueless the parents were and how vindictive the principle was? We all wanted Ferris to succeed in his rebellion. My son Zach gets up every morning 1 ½ early so he can watch at least 2 episodes of "Saved by the Bell". One thing about that show that’s very interesting is that you rarely see parents. All the time I ‘m watching it thinking “where in the world is mom and dad”? Recently movies like "The Social Network" subtly portray authority negatively.
Sure, much of authority is corrupt and disconnected, but authority isn't the "a" word. God has established it for our good. Students need to see it clearly and Biblically.
Does it communicate anything about God?
Not every movie talks about or mentions God but many do. From the "Book of Eli" to the" Adjustment Bureau" to "Bruce Almighty", there are many opportunities to watch and reflect on what media is saying about God and learn how our culture views him. One of my favorite "Glee" episodes is the one about "grilled cheesus".
"Grilled Cheesus Preview"
If you haven't seen it you should check it out. It's an episode that sheds light on how a student who is totally disengaged from religion might view God and prayer.
The point is when we go to the theater, turn on the radio or watch our favorite TV show, media is teaching us something about God. Our students must ask good quesions and filter what they're seeing / hearing with truth.
Students are living in a world where there they have more access than ever before. They are interacting with media on many different levels. May we be people that help them think through what they're seeing and hearing.
Monday, May 9, 2011
A question about tornadoes and God

Recently several tornadoes tore through my home town of Chattanooga. The result was incredible devastation and loss of life in Ringgold, Georgia, Apison, Tennessee and many other areas. I received an interesting but not surprising question on facebook about disaster. This question comes up so much, "if God is sovereign over all things why does he allow disaster and sickness and general bad stuff". I thought this might be good to ponder. The question will continue to haunt us as long as we live on this broken earth.
David,
I have a question and you were always good at answering these kinds of questions. So as you know we had some big tornadoes here last week and I was thinking, why is it that God protected my parents house and it is pretty much completely fine, but their neighbors' isn't? And some people close to where they lived died, but they were fine and even their horses escaped without even scratch? So how do we rejoice that He protected them while some others weren't protected? Just kind of confusing to me. I would appreciate any insight you might have.
Response...
Humm, great question. The first thing I would say is this, it's very mysterious isn't it? God does have the ability to control tornadoes and everything else. Jesus said to the storm "peace be still" and it was. We know that disaster hits people who love Jesus and people who don't. So it does't seem that followers of Jesus are immune. The second thing to remember is that the world is broken. When sin entered so did crazy disaster stuff. As long as this broken world is in existence there will be tornadoes, fires, hurricanes, earthquakes and the like. Anyway, I'm thankful there were just a few shingles off the top of your parent's house and sad about the people who lost their life. I think Piper's perspective on the tsunumi's might help a little...
Check it out...Tsunami, Sovereignty, Mercy
Please join me in praying for and showing mercy to all who are suffering. Whether in Japan, Haiti, or Apison, may we be people who feel and show great compassion to those who suffer.
Sunday, May 8, 2011
Quote of the Day
We may be certain that whatever God has made prominent in his Word, he intended to be conspicuous in our lives. If he has said much about prayer, it is because he knows we have much need of it. So deep are our necessities, that until we are in heaven we must not cease to pray. Dost thou want nothing? Then, I fear thou dost not know thy poverty.
Spurgeon
Spurgeon
Wednesday, May 4, 2011
My Little Girl
Well, believe it or not my daughter Lauren turns 16 today. Now, having 3 boys that are older you can imagine the shock of dealing with a little girl. It's just plain 'ole different.
Trying to love her well has been a constant reminder of how much I need God's grace. And no, I don't have it down. God is still teaching me.
By the way, she is an incredible young lady in spite of me (thanks to her amazing mother).
Here are a few of the many characteristics I love about Lauren.
* She has a deep heart for those who are hurting.
She told me the other day she wants to become a special needs specialist / teacher. I think that's amazing. Sure, someday God is going to use her to care for people in need but God is using her soft heart today. Very rarely have I seen someone who cares about their friends when they're hurting the way Lauren does. God has truly given her a huge heart of compassion.
* She is incredibly honest about her feelings
Sometimes she could use a filter but you never have to guess what's going on in her heart, she'll tell you. This is so important in a world where people come across as fake. It's great that Lauren can simply be herself. She gets angry, sad and hurt just like everyone else. And yes, when those feelings are present most of the time we know it.
* She's really comfortable in her own skin
Sure, she spends time trying to make herself look prettier. By the way, I don't understand straighteners. It seems stupid to straighten hair that is already straight. All joking aside, Lauren seems to understand that beauty is something that ultimately comes from the inside. Yes, she's beautiful on the outside but Lauren knows there's so much more.
* She burps really loud
It's much louder than her brothers. Maybe this goes back to being comfortable raising boys? When she burps is grosses me out and makes me happy at the same time.
* She loves Jesus
Not perfectly, but her heart belongs to him. I can see the power of the gospel transforming her into the lady God wants her to be. I told her the other day that I want her to dream about how God might use her one day for his glory. (He already is)
She is so precious to me. There is nothing I wouldn't do to protect her and encourage her.
Happy birthday Alex. Know that you are loved and that your daddy is so, so proud of you.
Saturday, April 30, 2011
IBC Student Ministry Internships

Purpose: To shepherd and coach Godly young adults interested in investing in students and to unleash their passion and energy to connect with IBC students and their friends on and off the church campus.
Student ministry is essentially a ministry of “being there”. Effective ministry happens when people who love Jesus meet students where they are. With relational ministry in mind we have a 2-fold hope for interns here at IBC.
Personal and Ministry Development –
The best way to learn student ministry or any ministry is not in a classroom but in the field. Young adults who are passionate about students or even considering student ministry as a career will find a great opportunity to grow and learn.
Coaching from the IBC staff as well as seeking mentors is always an effective means to develop in spiritual and ministry life. Understanding that the heart of the minister is of utmost importance, great care will be given to help interns grow in their spiritual formation.
Interns will have the opportunity to “look behind” the curtain as they participate as an integral part of the team. By attending staff meetings, helping in the planning process and providing ministry assessment interns will not only observe what happens behind the scenes of a student ministry but also participate in the leadership process. Interns have a significant seat at the student ministry leadership table.
There will also be opportunities to serve in a variety of ways with ongoing assessment and feedback from the student ministry staff.
These opportunities may include:
• teaching / speaking
• relational ministry
• event planning / production
• counseling
• small group leadership
• leadership
• you name it
Incarnational Ministry –
Any ministry that effectively disciples, connects and sends students has relationship as it’s foundational philosophy. In addition to personal growth, half of the intern’s time will be spent connecting with students where they live. This may mean lunch on high school / middle school campuses or attending a school play. Whatever students view as their territory is where interns need to spend their time.
In addition to connecting with IBC students we are very interested in reaching out to peripheral students and students who are unchurched. Yes, this can be messy but we long to see the transforming power of the gospel transform students.
Sample Weekly Schedule / Time Commitment -
With personal / ministry development and incarnational ministry as the goal each intern is expected to serve a minimum of 30 hours.
Although our goal is flexibility there are some required time commitments for the intern.
• Sunday Programming
• Weekly student ministry staff meeting
• Wednesday night programming
• Special events / retreats
• Intern Coaching gatherings
Intern Profile –
When we think about the characteristics of a person who would be a perfect match for us there are a few words that come to mind.
• Heart for students
• Teachable
• Relational
• Team player
• Fun
• Mature (relatively)
• Christlike
So do you love Jesus and have a heart to see the gospel transform students? If you’re interested contact Mary Ann Conner at Mconnor@irvingbible.org. We would love to have a conversation. Space is limited.
Monday, April 25, 2011
At the Movies with Students Part 1

A few weekends ago had the privilege of being with hundreds of high school students who were thinking about Kingdom and culture. Culture by definition isn't inherently good or bad, it's a reflection of a people's beliefs and habits.
John Frame says it well.
"Culture is an ambiguity, a mixture, of sin and righteousness, of good and bad, of love of Christ and hatred of Christ."
One area that greatly influences students and all our culture is media. By media I primarily mean movies, music and television.
Like culture, media isn't good or evil. Sure, there are many lies in movies and music that shape our beliefs and feelings but instead of simply saying we should avoid media, how do we interact with it in a way that is beneficial to us and honoring to God?
With that in mind we discussed 7 questions every student should think through when engaging the messages that flow from movies, music and TV.
Here are the first 2.
Did I enjoy it? Why or why not?
Let's face it, some movies don't really have any deep seated meaning, they're just movies. I love "Nacho Libre". In fact, it could be one of the finest movies ever made (ok, I'm exaggerating). I laugh my fanny off every time I see it and yes, sometimes I wear stretchy pants. Helping students understand why they enjoy a particular song or tv show is the first step in encouraging them not to simply turn their brains off when engaging media.
Does it teach anything about morality?
While listening to songs like "Teen Age Dream" or watching "Glee" it's important for students to at least be aware of the message that's coming through. Most high school girls love "The Notebook". Sure, it's a good love story but the problem is you find yourself hoping that Noah and Allie will hook up. It's absolutely sending a strong message about sex. My hope is that students will think that through a little as they watch.
As students engage with media they shouldn't turn their thinking off but actually look at the story or song through a Biblical lens. As they do the message might not influence their beliefs or feelings.
More to come...
Saturday, April 23, 2011
Holy Saturday - Fear and Hope
As you look at the gospels it seems that none of Jesus' followers really understood the reality of what was going to happen on Easter morning. Sure, Jesus had mentioned his resurrection but like us, they were a little hard of hearing.
I can't imagine the fear, confusion and anger they must have felt. They had followed this man for 3 years and seen him do the unthinkable. He turned water into wine, he calmed the storm, he healed the sick and yes, even raised the dead. What went wrong?
The disciples were even fearful for their own life. The women (the brave ones) wanted to prepare the body but rested because it was the Sabbath. As they observed the Sabbath they didn't realize that on the first day of week they would encounter the Lord of the Sabbath.
If I were one of the disciples I'm sure I would have responded the same way, but today as we reflect on the silence of the tomb we don't experience fear but hope. We know Sunday's coming and as we celebrate the resurrection of Jesus it seals the deal. "The wrath of God is satisfied".
And here is our hope...
1 Cor 15:20-22
20 But Christ has indeed been raised from the dead, the firstfruits of those who have fallen asleep. 21 For since death came through a man, the resurrection of the dead comes also through a man. 22 For as in Adam all die, so in Christ all will be made alive.
1 Cor 15:54-57
54 When the perishable has been clothed with the imperishable, and the mortal with immortality, then the saying that is written will come true: "Death has been swallowed up in victory."
55 "Where, O death, is your victory?
Where, O death, is your sting?"
56 The sting of death is sin, and the power of sin is the law. 57 But thanks be to God! He gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.
We who already know the end of the story don't have to live in fear, we live in hope. That although the world is broken and death still happens, Jesus conquered death and we know we have life, now and in the future.
Oh yeah, happy Holy Saturday!
Friday, April 22, 2011
Good Friday Scripture Reflections
This morning I found myself meditating on some key passages to reflect on the atoning sacrifice of Jesus. There was no agenda than to start in Isaiah 53, then I let my fingers do the walking. Here are the passages I perused.
If you haven't taken time to reflect on what Jesus did on our behalf allow these passages to direct your thoughts and feelings. He is and will make all things new.
Isa 53:4-6
4 Surely he took up our infirmities
and carried our sorrows,
yet we considered him stricken by God,
smitten by him, and afflicted.
5 But he was pierced for our transgressions,
he was crushed for our iniquities;
the punishment that brought us peace was upon him,
and by his wounds we are healed.
6 We all, like sheep, have gone astray,
each of us has turned to his own way;
and the Lord has laid on him
the iniquity of us all.
7 He was oppressed and afflicted,
yet he did not open his mouth;
he was led like a lamb to the slaughter,
and as a sheep before her shearers is silent,
so he did not open his mouth.
8 By oppression and judgment he was taken away.
And who can speak of his descendants?
For he was cut off from the land of the living;
for the transgression of my people he was stricken.
9 He was assigned a grave with the wicked,
and with the rich in his death,
though he had done no violence,
nor was any deceit in his mouth.
10 Yet it was the Lord's will to crush him and cause him to suffer,
and though the Lord makes his life a guilt offering,
he will see his offspring and prolong his days,
and the will of the Lord will prosper in his hand.
Phil 2:5-11
5 Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus:
6 Who, being in very nature God,
did not consider equality with God something to be grasped,
7 but made himself nothing,
taking the very nature of a servant,
being made in human likeness.
8 And being found in appearance as a man,
he humbled himself
and became obedient to death —
even death on a cross!
9 Therefore God exalted him to the highest place
and gave him the name that is above every name,
10 that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow,
in heaven and on earth and under the earth,
11 and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord,
to the glory of God the Father.
Rom 3:21-26
21 But now a righteousness from God, apart from law, has been made known, to which the Law and the Prophets testify. 22 This righteousness from God comes through faith in Jesus Christ to all who believe. There is no difference, 23 for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, 24 and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus. 25 God presented him as a sacrifice of atonement, through faith in his blood. He did this to demonstrate his justice, because in his forbearance he had left the sins committed beforehand unpunished— 26 he did it to demonstrate his justice at the present time, so as to be just and the one who justifies those who have faith in Jesus.
Rev 21:3-5
3 And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, "Now the dwelling of God is with men, and he will live with them. They will be his people, and God himself will be with them and be their God. 4 He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away."
5 He who was seated on the throne said, "I am making everything new!" Then he said, "Write this down, for these words are trustworthy and true."
Thank you Jesus.
If you haven't taken time to reflect on what Jesus did on our behalf allow these passages to direct your thoughts and feelings. He is and will make all things new.
Isa 53:4-6
4 Surely he took up our infirmities
and carried our sorrows,
yet we considered him stricken by God,
smitten by him, and afflicted.
5 But he was pierced for our transgressions,
he was crushed for our iniquities;
the punishment that brought us peace was upon him,
and by his wounds we are healed.
6 We all, like sheep, have gone astray,
each of us has turned to his own way;
and the Lord has laid on him
the iniquity of us all.
7 He was oppressed and afflicted,
yet he did not open his mouth;
he was led like a lamb to the slaughter,
and as a sheep before her shearers is silent,
so he did not open his mouth.
8 By oppression and judgment he was taken away.
And who can speak of his descendants?
For he was cut off from the land of the living;
for the transgression of my people he was stricken.
9 He was assigned a grave with the wicked,
and with the rich in his death,
though he had done no violence,
nor was any deceit in his mouth.
10 Yet it was the Lord's will to crush him and cause him to suffer,
and though the Lord makes his life a guilt offering,
he will see his offspring and prolong his days,
and the will of the Lord will prosper in his hand.
Phil 2:5-11
5 Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus:
6 Who, being in very nature God,
did not consider equality with God something to be grasped,
7 but made himself nothing,
taking the very nature of a servant,
being made in human likeness.
8 And being found in appearance as a man,
he humbled himself
and became obedient to death —
even death on a cross!
9 Therefore God exalted him to the highest place
and gave him the name that is above every name,
10 that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow,
in heaven and on earth and under the earth,
11 and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord,
to the glory of God the Father.
Rom 3:21-26
21 But now a righteousness from God, apart from law, has been made known, to which the Law and the Prophets testify. 22 This righteousness from God comes through faith in Jesus Christ to all who believe. There is no difference, 23 for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, 24 and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus. 25 God presented him as a sacrifice of atonement, through faith in his blood. He did this to demonstrate his justice, because in his forbearance he had left the sins committed beforehand unpunished— 26 he did it to demonstrate his justice at the present time, so as to be just and the one who justifies those who have faith in Jesus.
Rev 21:3-5
3 And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, "Now the dwelling of God is with men, and he will live with them. They will be his people, and God himself will be with them and be their God. 4 He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away."
5 He who was seated on the throne said, "I am making everything new!" Then he said, "Write this down, for these words are trustworthy and true."
Thank you Jesus.
Wednesday, March 30, 2011
Tobogganing, Pizza and Jesus
This morning at breakfast club we discussed how easy or difficult it is for us to talk to our friends about our faith. Each student there had talked to someone about Jesus in the last week but admitted they felt ill equipped to enter into serious dialogue. This morning I ran across this little story and feel motivated to equip our students to whimsically and gently share Jesus.
Here's the story...
My name is Trevor, I'm 21 now but its a funny story how I discovered religion.
I was 11 years old when I was invited to a Christian church youth group by a friend I had met a year earlier after moving to a new town, So I went. We went tobogganing, and snowmobiling. I was having a fantastic time!
So dinner came around and pizza was ordered. When the pizza got there, everyone got plates and sat down. Thats when everyone held hands and prayed. I had no clue what was going on. When they finished I had already started eating, and asked my friend Drew who everyone was talking to. He replied "Are you serious?" I said ya there is no one else in the room. He said "Jesus!", I replied "who is Jesus?"..... "GOD!" he said. So I said " I can't see him." and he said "no one can."...... "So how do you know he's there?" I replied. His best answer was "My parents have taught me that you may not see him, but hes everywhere and helps everyone." I replied with a quick "I don't believe in ghosts." and he couldn't reply.
To this day he has questioned his religion. He still believes but he has trouble believing. Hopefully one day he will join reality.
What if Trevor showed up at your youth group?
Any ideas about how to better prepare our students for these kind of discussions?
I'm all ears.
Here's the story...
My name is Trevor, I'm 21 now but its a funny story how I discovered religion.
I was 11 years old when I was invited to a Christian church youth group by a friend I had met a year earlier after moving to a new town, So I went. We went tobogganing, and snowmobiling. I was having a fantastic time!
So dinner came around and pizza was ordered. When the pizza got there, everyone got plates and sat down. Thats when everyone held hands and prayed. I had no clue what was going on. When they finished I had already started eating, and asked my friend Drew who everyone was talking to. He replied "Are you serious?" I said ya there is no one else in the room. He said "Jesus!", I replied "who is Jesus?"..... "GOD!" he said. So I said " I can't see him." and he said "no one can."...... "So how do you know he's there?" I replied. His best answer was "My parents have taught me that you may not see him, but hes everywhere and helps everyone." I replied with a quick "I don't believe in ghosts." and he couldn't reply.
To this day he has questioned his religion. He still believes but he has trouble believing. Hopefully one day he will join reality.
What if Trevor showed up at your youth group?
Any ideas about how to better prepare our students for these kind of discussions?
I'm all ears.
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